5 Simple Ways to Celebrate Your Spouse Today
As newlyweds, my husband and I decided early on that we were going to intentionally celebrate each other (not tolerate each other) as often as we can. That means, we will choose to see our good sides and be vocal about it. We will praise each other as often as we can whenever we can.
This does not mean that we do not discuss issues if and when they arise. We do and will continue to do so, in a mild and calm manner. But I think being intentional about highlighting each other’s strengths is so much better than constantly nagging about each other’s weaknesses.
So as we celebrate our fifth month together today, I am choosing to celebrate him. It’s my prayer that you too (if you’re married) will be inspired to find ways to celebrate your spouse today if not already. I can think of many reasons why I love my husband but here are five of them just to name a few. May you be blessed.
He massages my feet. When I’ve had an exhausting day cleaning (it’s a big house after all especially for teeny weeny me) or cooking, my husband would often sit at my feet and start massaging my tiny feet. Suffice to say, this simple gesture never fails to make me feel like a queen. Oh yes.
He opens the door for me. My husband is almost the epitome of chivalry as are many husbands out there. Of course there are times that he cannot open the door for me but that rarely happens. Even when his hands are full, he tries to open the door for me, before I get in the car and before I get out. I’ve gotten so used to it that sometimes, when I’m riding with someone else, I stay in the car for a few seconds waiting for my husband to open the door. And then, I would realize, “Oh no. I’m not with my husband!”
He puts on my socks/sneakers/slippers for me…every…morning. Yes. He does. My husband wakes up at 5 am but I am not a morning person. And probably never will be. So we’ve made an arrangement that he wakes me up at around 6:30 am so I can prepare his lunch box to carry to work. And whenever he wakes me up at that time, he always makes sure that he puts on my socks and sneakers or slippers, whatever I was wearing, for me. I find it oh so sweet every time. I also mentioned this in my other blog, “How I Found True Love Online – Do’s and Don’t’s of Christian Dating Online“.
Celebrating five glorious months with this hottie. I thank God for each and every day I spend with him.
He rubs and massages my back whenever I have a ‘back attack’. The lower part of my spine is frail so I cannot stand or sit for long hours. I cannot carry heavy stuff either. Bending can also be a problem so, sometimes, when I forget and overdo myself, my back ‘attacks’. When this happens, I have to lie flat on my stomach. When I was still single, during these times, I would often cry out to God silently that I would really love to have a nice back massage from my husband, if I already had him at the time. Thankfully, God did hear my prayers and gave me a husband who was eager to massage my back even without being asked. My husband would always seal the massage, not just with a kiss, but with a prayer too. And I always love his prayers. They always seem so powerful.
He clears the table and puts the dishes in the dishwasher. My husband works two jobs, a full time and a part time one. This is on top of his prison ministry that he’s been faithfully doing for the past ten years. And yet, when he gets home at night, he carries out his ‘household duty’ without complaining. Sometimes, when I can see that he’s really exhausted, I offer to do it for him but he declines. Knowing that he never used to lift a finger when his mom was around and able, I know that this is a big transition for my husband. But it is also something he’s more than willing to do. He knows that he has to do his part to make our marriage work.
How about you? What are the ways you celebrate your husband (or wife)? Please share in the comments below. I’m no marriage expert as you must have already surmised. But as a newlywed, I am always on the lookout for tips on how I could spice up my marriage (not that it needs it now). I do believe, though I do not wish it, that someday, I might need it. After all, no marriage is perfect just as ours is not. I have heard of ‘Christian’ marriages that ended in divorce only one month after getting married. So every month that passes is more like a milestone for us. I think it’s important to celebrate each day instead of waiting until one year has passed or a decade has gone by. If I have one big takeaway from reading Stormie Omartian’s book “The Power of a Praying Wife“, it’s this: It’s better to prepare now before the storm comes. For storms will surely come in any marriage.
So do share whatever tip you might have. Sadly, although the internet is crawling with tips on marriages, Bible-based tips for newlyweds are scarce. So it’s my hope that this blog also inspires other newlyweds like me. Or that it helps fan the flame of someone’s dying marriage. And for the singles reading this, I pray that you too will find a man (or a woman) who will celebrate you in big or small ways. As you celebrate him (or her).
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. (Proverbs 5:18)
5 Simple Ways to Celebrate Your Spouse Today